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Pantyhose wearers catch more eyes
Robin Maryland, president, ActSensuous
From time to time, I hear from ladies who say they love wearing pantyhose because of the extra attention they get from men when they do.
They say they love it when they catch men staring at their pantyhose-adorned legs out in public.
Others tell me that their boyfriends or husbands are so grateful whenever they wear pantyhose, that they wear them often to please their men.
More than anyone else, I hear from ladies who wear pantyhose at the office, sometimes because it’s required, or at least, expected.
In offices where the wearing of pantyhose is not required or particularly encouraged, it’s the ladies who are highly professional and classy who wear pantyhose of their own volition. Those are my heroes.
These ladies tell me that when they wear pantyhose, they get a great deal more attention from their male co-workers. But they say that this often causes a sense of uneasiness or even resentment among their fellow female employees.
Office girls in Korea would never not wear pantyhose to work.
They tell me that female co-workers will approach them and say something to the effect of “You know, you don’t have to wear pantyhose. You can go bare-legged.” Or, “How can you stand to wear pantyhose every day?” Or (and I love this one), “Pantyhose are so ‘out’ these days.”
Well, you know me – I think it’s downright pathetic when women blindly jump on the bandwagon in the name of what is thought to be “in or out of fashion,” especially if it gives them an excuse to be less feminine and not as desirable. And I think it’s just plain wrong when women use that same excuse to go against time-honored business acumen, and then try to encourage others to do so, as well.
Anyway, it got me thinking: How many of you have been approached by your co-workers about your wearing pantyhose at the office? Or how many of you have noticed that you get more attention from co-workers, those in your circle, or people on the street when you wear pantyhose?
Are you seen as a threat to your fellow females who don’t wear pantyhose and don’t want you to wear them either? (And is that to keep you from garnering the attention of men, or to help them somehow justify their own choice to not wear pantyhose?)
I’ll bet you have some stories to share. Please do.
Office girls in China gather for a meeting. Wonder if the businessmen at this office find it difficult to concentrate?
Should I wear Pantyhose to a Job Interview?
Seriously, how could anyone get any work done with Asakawa dressed this way for the office?
It is said that millions of people struggle with the question of what to wear to a job interview.
Having worked in an executive search and recruitment business for nearly 20 years, I’ve coached hundreds of women (and men, although not about wearing pantyhose) on this subject, but just to be fair, I researched the subject on the Internet today to learn what is being taught right now.
Happily, Ive found that the advice of career experts is exactly the same as it’s been forever. Yes, women should wear pantyhose to a job interview.
Look, if you’re going to interview for a job at Wendy’s, you don’t need to wear a corporate grey skirted suit, with high heels and sheer nude pantyhose. Unless the opportunity there is for a regional manager or higher level position.
So let’s say you’re interviewing for an office position in corporate America, and the company adheres to a business-casual dress code. What then? Still, you wear a suit, heels and pantyhose. Why? Because you’re on duty.
It doesn’t matter what the company’s dress code is, or if you’re just lucky enough to be interviewing on casual Friday. You are the one who needs to make a good impression. You should always dress the way a senior manager would, or should, because it shows good character, a good attitude and demonstrates that you are serious about wanting to work at that company.
You will never not get a job offer because you dressed better than you needed to during the interview. But not dressing according to accepted standards of business attire could cost you an opportunity.
In his book, When Job-Hunting: Dress for Success, Randall S. Hansen, Ph.D., of Quintessential Careers, writes:
“The standard job interviewing attire for women is a conservative dark navy or gray skirted wool blend suit. Job experts and employers seem split on the notion of pants suits, so a skirted suit is a safer choice. Makeup should be minimal, with lipstick and nail polish conservative tones. Pantyhose should be flawless (no runs) and conservative in color.”
Yes, but he’s a man, you say? OK, well, according to Kim Zoller at Image Dynamics, 55 percent of another person’s perception of you is based on how you look. Her Dressing for Success suggestions:
- Solid color, conservative suit
- Coordinated blouse
- Moderate shoes
- Limited jewelry
- Neat, professional hairstyle
- Tan or light hosiery
OK, think that’s just old school?
- Always wear a suit with a jacket; no dresses
- Shoes with conservative heels
- Conservative hosiery at or near skin color (and no runs!)
It’s not rocket surgery (a cross between rocket science and heart surgery) here, people. Just because Hollywood created the bare legs phenomenon to which women all over the world now subscribe, it doesn’t change the fact that in the real world, there still are standards of right and wrong, good and bad, acceptable and unacceptable.
And in the workplace, especially during a job interview, pantyhose should always be worn.
